A Musical Gift
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From my small apartment, the tune of โGood King Wenceslasโ blared from my sonโs shiny brass trumpet. My eight-year-old son, Jimmy, was practicing for his first Christmas concert in the school orchestra. Jimmy is autistic, and his music teacher recommended he play an instrument to improve his attention span. He had noticed his musical aptitude.
The cost of the trumpet was steep for me, but by carefully budgeting and cutting coupons, I was able to make the monthly payment. No sacrifice was too great to help my son improve his skills.
School was difficult for Jimmy. Heโd often get lost on the way to and from the building. Sometimes, he would mentally withdraw during class to escape from difficult social demands, typical of kids on the autism spectrum. He had special accommodations in the classroom to help keep him on target, including a personal aide.
The Christmas of 1998 was going to be lean as usual. I had been a single parent for the past few years, and my income had been drastically reduced since my divorce. Money became even tighter when I was laid off earlier that fall.
I was good at making do with what we had. We had seen hard times before. To cut costs, I packaged homemade cookie gifts in decorative tin canisters that I had been collecting throughout the year. My freezer was packed full of cherries, which Jimmy and I had picked in the summertime from my motherโs orchard. Mom lived nearby, and we visited her farm home often. Putting momโs cherries to good use, I made pies for gifts.
Focusing on the true meaning of Christmas, I thanked God for everything we had been blessed with - my parents, friends, and Jimmyโs music. My mother had given me a few toys she picked up so I would have gifts for Jimmy on Christmas morning. I was truly grateful. While most people enjoyed the rush of Christmas shopping, I was content to make do with what I had.
The smell of warm vanilla and sugar filled my apartment as I frosted the last batch of cookies. And then the phone rang. I licked the buttercream icing from my fingers before reaching for the receiver.
โHello?โ
โMs. Jagow?โ
โYes, this is Ms. Jagow.โ
โThis is the collections department attempting to collect payment for your sonโs trumpet.โ
The instrument was almost paid off, but I had gotten behind in payments since losing my job.
โAhhโฆ how much is the current payment?โ I inquired.
โYou would need $100 to make your account current,โ she explained.
It might as well have been $1,000 because I didnโt have it. My heart sank as I thought of having to take from my son the only source of motivation he had for going to school.
โWell, you seeโฆ I lost my job and have not been able to keep up with the payments. Will you accept a smaller amount until I can get caught up?โ I asked.
โNo, maโam,โ the woman said firmly. โIf the $100 is not paid in full, we will have to repossess the trumpet.โ
I hesitated a moment. โThat would be just awful as my son loves playing, and music gives him a reason to go to school.โ I sighed. โYou see, he is autistic, and school is very trying for him.โ
The tone of the conversation shifted. โWhat is his music teacherโs name?โ the woman asked.
โMr. Volpe,โ I answered, somewhat confused by her inquiry.
โAnd the school I have listed here is Starpoint Central,โ she went on.
Was she going to send someone out to the school to get the trumpet, I wondered. Then the woman asked if I would wait on hold.
Several minutes later, the woman came back. โMs. Jagow? I just spoke with your sonโs music teacher, and he tells me your son is quite talented. Please accept the trumpet as a gift from us.โ
I hesitated a moment. Did I hear her correctly? โYou can consider the trumpet paid in full,โ she reassured me. โMerry Christmas!โ
As I hung up, tears of gratitude fell from my eyes.
The evening of Jimmyโs first school concert performance finally arrived shortly before Christmas. My mother accompanied me to the show. The curtain opened, and Jimmy proudly walked out on stage with the rest of the band, his treasured trumpet in hand. Nervously, I twisted my purse strap around my hand as I wondered if he would remain focused and follow the bandleaderโs directions. Musically, he had a good ear, could read notes, and had a good sense of rhythm. However, he was unable to follow the direction of his classroom teacher without the help of his aide.
The conductor raised his baton, cueing the band. All eyes were on the conductor; mine were on Jimmy as I watched with anticipation. The band broke into a rendition of โSleigh Ride,โ with Jimmy following along in perfect time. Gabriel himself couldnโt have sounded more beautiful to me in that moment. My mother and I, wiping tears of joy from our eyes, sat back, and enjoyed the show. The band continued with many familiar Christmas classics, one after another, and Jimmy didnโt miss a beat.
Many Christmases have passed since then - some more abundant than others. But I will always treasure the gift of music that my son and I both received the Christmas of 1998.
Now, twenty years later, I am looking forward to attending Jimmyโs Christmas concert at Berklee College of Music.
Author, Lori Carpenter Jagow is a Pastoral Counselor at Pendleton Center UMC.
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This story is part of Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Wonder of Christmas.